When you’re at a nexus, considering whether to stay with a spouse, should longterm health be taken into acct.?
Tell a spouse is jogging vivo (healthy, eat well, go to the doctor regularly, working on his mental health, etc.) and the other is not at all (overeating, not exercising, do not handle stress) is only for the healthy spouse to have to take care of his wife’s unhealthy because they are in their later years, when their health than in the first place, were the choices they did in their 30s and 40s? I told my wife that I had put in a house of 60-65, rather than having to wheel around her and clean the bottom. It seemed to take umbrage cette.Nous were both relatively equal in hwp when we got married, but I have seen both parents die at a young age because of unhealthy lifestyles and do the same thing.
I am the same way. My husband can go ahead and slowly kill himself but when I loose all patience I am at no fault for my actions when I move on for myself and he can go sit in the hospital and die on his own.
I don’t think its cruel..I just think tough people need tough love. You can’t force them to live a happy life so they get what they deserve if they are unwilling to take care of themselves in that aspect as well.
well I would say that it isn’t fair for you to be caring about your health and her making really unhealthy choices. I could see maybe if you are going a little over the top about it and nagging her because she isn’t jogging a mile a day or she eats a piece of chocolate cake every once in awhile. But, maybe you both can find some healthy things that you would both be interested in doing. Maybe she would rather go swimming once a week or play tennis.
wow, what happened to better or for worse?? if your wife was always like this before getting married then you knew that about them and shouldn’t expect them to change. Or instead of giving her ultimatums maybe ask her to go for a walk with you every night ..or get a family puppy and all go out together to stay active and healthy or take dancing classes. something she will enjoy!!
Leaving her doesn’t change anything except for now she is not your worry ..if you love someone don’t you want to protect them. If she knows you would leave her because of her lifestlye do you think that makes her want to change or go right for the ice cream. ICE CREAM!! most women are emotional eaters so instead of leaving show that you will never give up on her! Start being gym buddies or going on hikes on the weekend or get her girlfriends involved so they can get into to!
“Through sickness and in health”…isn’t that part of your vows? Just because you have a healthier lifestyle, doesn’t mean you won’t get sick. Ever hear of aneurysms? Now, would you want your wife to put you in a home? Would you take offense to that? Just remember..you get what you give, so be careful what “promises” you make to your wife. The might come back to haunt you! Hope this helps….
Well that is a tough question. I know I will outlive my husband; both of his parents are dead and he’s only 24 years old. He already has high blood pressure that ranges from 170/100 to even higher and he refuses to take medication. His diet is horrendous, he lives and dies by mt. dew ( he can drink 12 or more a day which is why I stopped buying it) and MacDonald’s. Not to mention the huge amount of stress he is under, poor sleep patterns he’s a walking heart attack waiting to happen. What can I do about it? I knew somewhat his lifestyle habits before I married him and I married him anyway. I try to fix low sodium dinners for him but he pours the salt on anyway. I wont put him in a home, I’m a nurse and have too big of a heart and I’de wip his arse if I had to. But I doubt he’ll even make it to 65 if he continues with his blood pressure the way it is.